Hello Readers,
Facing the truth is always better than ignoring it, because burying your head in the sand like an Ostrich is not a solution, its a cop out. Denial is dismissing your own intuition. It is blatently overlooking what is right in front of you, staring you in the face. It stems from a yearning to believe that all will be ok in the end and that situations will return to how they once were before, but of course they never can and never will. Time moves in a forwards direction, not in reverse, yet there are many people who choose to live in a world of make belief.
A lot of people dislike hearing the truth. They only want to hear what they want to hear. At first they will dislike what you have to say, but the more factually correct you start sounding, the more they dislike it. I have known friendships, relationships, marriages disintegrate because one of the parties concerned did not feel comfortable being made to listen to the facts. To them, the truth is distasteful. To them the truth cannot possibly be correct. Many will re write history to make themselves sound the hero or heroine because it makes for a good story They believe their own stories and woe betide anyone that disagrees with them. They choose to live in a bubble with a ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign parked outside.
Refusing to acknowledge that something is wrong is a way of coping with emotional conflict, stress, painful thoughts, threatening information and anxiety. People are often in denial about anything that makes them feel vulnerable or threatens their sense of control such as an illness, financial troubles, addiction, relationship conflicts, the list is endless. However, denial also has a dark side because being in constant denial can prevent a person from dealing with issues that need action such as a health issue or financial situation that is spiralling out of control. I have heard people tell me that if they dont think about something for long enough, that it will go away. It never does. Situations like these are nearly always left to other people to sort out and so the Ostrich living in its bubble only emerges when the coast is clear and everything is seemingly tickity boo once again. I am sure many of you have experienced such people and situations. They refuse to take personal responsibility for their actions and when things go wrong, they always manage to find someone else to blame. Its never themselves because they couldnt possibly be wrong. These people often brag that they are always right, even when they are wrong, they are still right. They will twist and turn the story of a situation to make themselves sound ‘right’. They would rather be ‘right’ than happy.
A person who denies their past is a person who denies themselves a future because they refuse to know themselves. Denial can be beautiful, but only if you are a fantastic liar.
Until Next Week,
Linda and The Lulas xxx
