Hello Readers,
When a friend is in crisis and there are big problems happening around them, it isn’t always space and leaving them to it that they need, its love, support and understanding that is important. The greatest gift that you can give anyone is your time. We can always juggle our commitments around and make time during our busy schedule to pick up the phone, send a text message or jump in the car and visit someone who is struggling to get to grips with their problems. No amount of money, gifts or trinkets can ever take the place of giving your time.
Friendships are important , but when you are hanging around with the wrong people, the effects upon our health and wellbeing can be damaging to the point of causing illness and depression.
There are three types of people in our life. Those who put us in difficult times, those who leave us in difficult times, and those who help us during difficult times. People are part of your problem or part of your solution and we get from them what we are prepared to put up with, or not.
We have all had toxic people dust us with their poison and sometimes it feels more like a drenching. People who are not happy with themselves cannot possibly be happy with you.
Beware of people who only appreciate your friendship when it’s convenient for them. Allow yourself the personal right to disengage, disassociate and detach. Use your back bone when dealing with toxic friends, co-workers, relatives, lovers, not because you don’t care, but because you are doing what is necessary to preserve your personal health and happiness. These people will not be there when you reach out for help, they are more likely to make the excuse that they are so busy running around everyone else, or didn’t like to disturb you, or thought giving you some space is better and then you can always arrange to get together when the sun is shining again. In other words, ‘fair weather friends’. You need those like a hole in the head!
For free wheelers, hangers on, users and clingers, the prospect of a barrier is most depressing. You do not have to reply to every single text message, e mail or communication if you don’t want to. One of the worst feelings in the world is to feel obliged to dance to someone else’s tune because you feel guilty if you don’t. Some people fall into the trap of doing as they are told because they are fearful of the consequences whilst others protest that they are ‘nice people’ and nice people always go along with everyone else, just to keep the peace for others, but never for themselves. Some of the most common signs that indicate you are associating with toxic people is when you dread being around them, your stomach hurts or feels unsettled, you are exhausted or angry after dealing with them and that you feel bad about yourself. Removing toxic people out of your life is not the difficult part, but often feeling guilty about taking such drastic action can make you question your judgement. Stay away from lazy parasites who perch on you just to satisfy their needs. When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them. There comes a point in your life when you realise who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore and who always will. In the end you learn who is false and who is true and who would risk it all for you.
A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.
Until Next Week,
Love and Light,
Linda and The Lulas xxx
