Belonging

Hello Readers,

No man or woman is an island.  We are all people who need other people some time or other.  The desire to belong is foremost in everyone’s mind.  Having a sense of belonging is a human need just like the need for food and shelter.  Some people find belonging in a church, some with family some with friends and some on Facebook, Twitter and other social media.  Some people see themselves as only connected to one or two people or their pets.  Many people struggle to find a sense of belonging and their loneliness and feelings of isolation proves extremely painful and difficult for them. 

Most people have a rope that ties them to someone and that rope can be short or it can be long, but no one really knows how long that rope is because it’s never their choice.  We are not always in control of how long a relationship or friendship is going to last because life happens, stuff happens, but we all need to feel that we are worthy of being loved and accepted.  Love should not cause suffocation if it is truly love.  Don’t bundle someone into an uncomfortable cage just because you want to make sure that they stay in your life because you feel they ‘belong’ to you.  If someone wants to belong to you, wants to stay with you, they will always find a way. 

Insecurity and lack of confidence and self-esteem is one of the biggest reasons certain people cling to bad relationships.  They don’t want to be alone and so they will virtually do anything just to cling onto something that does not make them happy because it’s better than nothing.  Even though they are badly treated, ignored or abused, taken advantage of, to them, it still represents a sense of belonging.  If there is any pressure to sell yourself cheap in order to be accepted, then you do not belong there.  Never make the mistake of changing yourself to be the sort of person you think another person wants you to be just so that you feel that you ‘belong’.  Some people believe that their partner belongs to them, as though they were their property, but in truth but they are deluding themselves because we are all individuals and we all belong to ourselves. A lot of people desperately want what they can’t have and the more they can’t have it, the more they want it.  It’s useless to cry over a thing that does not belong to you.  If something or someone is meant for you, it will eventually find its way to belong to you. 

There is a lot of loneliness in this world, people moving from town to town, city to city, country to country, never staying too long anywhere.  They have no real sense of permanence. Tragically there are many sad cases of displaced people through no fault of their own resulting from war, natural disasters and other reasons who feel terribly frightened, lost and alone when all they really want is a place to belong and someone to belong to.  There is nothing more important than a good, safe secure home to call your own.  A bird knows where it belongs and will never fly to the wrong next. 

If you know of someone who is feels alone, unloved and isolated, reach out to them and let them know that you care.  Never underestimate the power of a touch, a kind word a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of kindness, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.  We may all have different religions, different languages and different coloured skin, but we all belong to one human race. 

Until Next Week,

Love and Light,

Linda and The Lulas xxx