Toxic Friends

Hello Readers,

Friendships are important, but when you are hanging around with the wrong people, the effects upon our health and wellbeing can be damaging to the point of causing illness and depression. 

We have all had toxic people dust us with their poison and sometimes it feels more like a drenching. People who are not happy with themselves cannot possibly be happy with you. 

Beware of people who only appreciate your friendship when it’s convenient for them. Allow yourself the personal right to disengage, disassociate and detach. Use your back bone when dealing with toxic friends, co-workers, relatives, lovers, not because you don’t care, but because you are doing what is necessary to preserve your personal health and happiness. These people will not be there when you reach out because you need help. They suddenly start to shower you with phone calls and messages until you respond, then cutting you off again, leaving you absolutely clueless. 

For free wheelers, hangers on, users and clingers,  the prospect of a barrier is most depressing. You do not have to reply to every single text message, e mail or communication if you don’t want to. One of the worst feelings in the world is to feel obliged to dance to someone else’s tune because you feel guilty if you don’t. Some people fall into the trap of doing as they are told because they are fearful of the consequences whilst others protest that they are ‘nice people’ and nice people always go along with everyone else, just to keep the peace. 

Some of the most common signs that indicate you are associating with toxic people is when you dread being around them, your stomach hurts or feels unsettled, you are exhausted or angry after dealing with them and that you feel bad about yourself. Removing toxic people out of your life is not the difficult part, but often feeling guilty about taking such drastic action can make you question your judgement. Stay away from lazy parasites who perch on you just to satisfy their needs. They do not come to alleviate your burdens, hence their mission is to distract, detract until they have drained you of your life’s blood. When people treat you like they don’t care, believe them. 

There comes a point in your life when you realise who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore and who always will. In the end you learn who is false and who is true and who would risk it all for you. 

Until Next Week,

Love and Light,

Linda and The Lulas xxx