Hello Readers,
Hindsight is a wonderful thing. If you had of known better you would have done better. The fact that you look back now and realise where you have gone wrong and should have done things differently is a good thing because it demonstrates that you have learned important lessons and have no intention of repeating them again. During the course of our lives we are bound to grow apart from certain people because we all develop and evolve at different times and speeds. There will even be certain close relationships that may end because of numerous reasons and changes in our circumstances. A lot of people find letting go difficult and constantly torture themselves with images in their mind about how things might have been, should have been, ought to have been and never were. Engage in a conversation with them and they will transport you to their past, going to great lengths describing and reliving a previous situation in an attempt to describe to justify their reasons for letting something or someone go in the first place and they are often riddled with guilt about it as well. Sometimes the hardest part is not even letting go, but rather learning how to start over again, doing things differently and learning hard lessons from past mistakes.
Sometimes, relationships do go wrong, people quarrel, they outgrow one another, they no longer have anything much in common and a rift is formed. Neither one is willing to face up to the fact that both are to blame, and so communication begins to break down, there are secrets and lies and the rot sets in. It’s hard to know who you really are when you are hanging onto a ton of baggage from the past with no positive or constructive plan as to which direction to go in next and how to deal with stuff as it comes along. Why do you cling onto pain? There is nothing you can do about the events and wrongs of yesterday. Why hold onto the very thing which keeps you from hope and love? It doesn’t make sense because all you are doing is going round and round in ever decreasing circles and boring everyone else to death whilst you are playing the victim and lamenting about how badly done to you are. If you really want to get a grip of life and re-invent yourself, accept what has happened and move forwards. Never hate it or the person who has hurt you because everything that you hate is engraved upon your heart. If you want to let go and heal, you cannot hate. You can love them, forgive them and want the best for them, but still move on without them. Letting go means to come to the realisation that some people are part of our history, but not part of our destiny.
Take all the time you need to heal emotionally because ‘Rome was not built in one day’. Moving on doesn’t take a few hours, it takes lots of little steps to be able to break free from your broken self. You really don’t have to burn any bridges to let go, you don’t have to destroy anything. You can just decide to cross over and go in a brand new direction.
Until Next Week,
Love and Light,
Linda and The Lulas xxx
