HELLO READERS
Saying goodbye is more than just a simple farewell greeting. Although many times our departures are for only short periods, it can still be heart wrenching whilst you are missing one another. Knowing what to say at any emotional time can be difficult because of the sensitivity of the subject involved. One of the most challenging goodbyes occurs when we love someone yet recognise the impossibility of establishing a healthy relationship with them for all kinds of complicated reasons. Unrequited love can be heart rendering, yet something that must be lived through because it cannot be captured.
The tirade and intensity of the emotions involved during the loss of a loved one, or the close connection with someone you care deeply about can be devastating. Some people never properly recover from the shock of such a traumatic event. We may not realise just how important our relationships with certain people were until we must say goodbye. Only then will our true feelings surface reminding us just how much they will be missed, but never forgotten, or perhaps not.
Remaining in any toxic relationship means continuing to wait for changes to happen that are impossible and unrealistic. Tolerating unacceptable behaviour whilst losing our identity in an attempt to avoid admitting defeat is foolish because it exacerbates the suffering and frustration involved. Although departure can be painful, the agony will slowly dissipate leading to our healing and discovery of a new life. Conversely, staying in a negative environment will perpetuate the cycle of no improvement causing wounds to fester, tempers to flare and friendships to become septic.
We all take different paths in life and make our choices, but irrespective of what we do, or where we go, we must always make self-preservation our first priority. If we are too far gone weakened, we of no use anywhere.
Goodbyes and farewells force you to think long and hard about yourself and your relationships. They make you realise what you have had, what you have lost, what has been taken for granted, but most importantly, all the knowledge and experience you have gained. Moving on is a simple thing, but what it leaves behind can be very difficult to accept and live with. Some goodbyes are not forever nor the end. They simply mean we will miss one another until we meet again.
‘May the road rise up to meet you,
May the wind be ever at your back.
May the sunshine warm upon your face,
And the rain fall softly on your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the hollow of his hand’.
LOVE AND LIGHT,
LINDA AND THE LULAS XXX
