No one prepares you for the depth of pain and the impact it can have upon your health and life. It’s the healing process that hurts the most. The wounds remain, but over time the mind tries to protect its sanity by fading some of the memories into the background in the hope that the intensity lessens, but it is never, ever quite gone. Scars have that strange power to remind us that our past is real.
You never really stop loving someone totally, you just learn to live without them and break your heart over what might have been but never was. Sometimes the person you fall for isn’t ready to commit, or perhaps you struggle endlessly with the thought of sacrificing so much because of doubts and uncertainties lingering at the back of your mind. Perhaps others are still working through their own pain and need more time, or perhaps you can’t wait any longer. Time waits for no one. Sometimes things work out well, other times not, but often the road ahead is paved with obstacles and diversions leading to obscure destinations. Some people give up the fight whilst others choose to battle on regardless. Some are loyal, others don’t know the meaning of the word.
Scarcity is always attractive. People often want what they can’t have, but that doesn’t stop them from wanting it more. If another person wants you in their life, they will put you there. Never chase or beg. Never lower your standards. Always be careful about what you wish.
If you’ve been feeling upset and low, it isn’t unusual to plan an exit strategy. Whilst some alone time might help, plunging too deeply into the darkness of your emotions could be isolating enough to unintentionally sabotage other parts of your life. When the pain becomes overwhelming, you might make the wrong decision because you just want everything to stop and go away. The best thing is to talk about it. A problem shared can make all the difference.
It might be that you just want something to happen to change your situation, but in some cases, this is not always possible, nor even sensible depending upon the circumstances. Take comfort in knowing that you are not struggling alone. So many people are struggling daily just to stay alive. The world won’t suddenly end if you slow down and start thinking more about yourself. When you feel as though you are drowning in your own sorrow, it’s difficult to think straight or see things clearly. When the dust begins to settle everything will start to fall into place showing you which direction to go in next.
There comes a time in your life when you must turn the next page, write another book or simply close it. Let no one who loves deeply to be misjudged because the heart has its reasons. Even unrequited love has its own rainbow, so never give up hope for brighter and happier days. When the time is right, what is destined for you will always find you..
‘Next time I’ll listen to my heart,
Next time I’ll be smart.
So, I put my faith in something unknown,
I’m living on such sweet nothing,
But I’m trying to hope with nothing to hold,
I’m living on such sweet nothing.
Until next time’.
Happy Friday love from Me xx
